The case of the ex

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Okay, so I’ve recently been going through love forums, reading about relationship problems and people’s suggested resolutionย to said problems. Admittedly I only started reading them because I had relationship problems of my own (I’ll be blogging about that soon enough), but found quite a few people asking what it means if an ex gets back in touch after no contact (NC).

Well, in my experience, it’s because their recent relationship has gone tits up. I recently got contacted by an ex a couple of days ago after nearly 2 years of NC, he actually unblocked me from Facebook (I know, he actually blocked me! I used to joke with my mum as he blocked me after I sent him a message asking him to stop sending me candy crush requests, I guess some people were passionate hard core candy crush gamers back then!) and sent a message on the lines of ‘hey, how are you?’. Admittedly I was quite surprised, but was curious and because I don’t hold grudges (I actually do, but I didn’t want to appear like I did!) I replied. We sent a couple of messages back and forth, how everyone is at home, what we’ve been up to and so on.

Alarm bell no.1 started when he compliment my profile picture. I know what you might be thinking, ‘it’s just a compliment!’ But from where I stand, giving a flattering compliment to an ex when you’re in a relationship ain’t the norm. Alarm bell no.2 happened when he asked if I wanted to meet up (please note: he asked to meet up before when he’d supposedly broken up with his girlfriend, I declined but said maybe another time, turns out he hadn’t broken up with her).

So with alarm bells ringing and from past experience I decided to do some detective work. I remembered he followed me on Twitter (I unfollowed him many moons ago), he hadn’t posted in quite a while but it was easy enough to find a tweet he’d sent to his girlfriend. Low and ย behold, I was right to be suspicious, it turns out they’d broken up (admittedly I wouldn’t be very good as a detective as I accidentally followed her on Twitter, but no biggie I got what I needed).

How did the conversation end? Well I stayed mature and said I was too busy to meet up, he suggested another time, I said I’d try and pencil him in. I then blocked him. Why did I block him? Because he blocked me to begin with of ย course…only joking! I’m not that childish! (Okay I am a bit). The main reason was because he’s in the past and I have no reason to be in contact with him anymore, I’m certainly not going to be used!

Maybe he felt lonely (go and talk to your friends), maybe he needed an ego boost after the break up (hook up with another woman), maybe he genuinely just wanted to talk and be friends (with your ex? After you’ve just broken up with your current girlfriend? Not going to happen!) but either way, I’m leaving the past where it belongs and I’m looking to the future.

I think that’s my general advice in the case of ex’s suddenly contacting you out of nowhere after years or months of silence. Don’t step back in the past, they’re in the past for a reason.

JB

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Roar!

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I had a few hours spare so I decided to draw the beautiful animal that is the tiger!ย  (Roar!)

Well as with my human portraits I decided to start with the eyes before shading in the black fur. ย I then went about drawing the rest of the tiger before moving onto the nose, which was pretty easy (I know easy?!), but then again a tigers nose isn’t the most complicated (to draw anyway!).

The final touch was to shade the tiger in using my pencils to make the tiger seem less 2D. Unfortunately my scanner wouldn’t pick up the pencil shading, so I had to revert back to using my camera which has done a decent job of picking it up, although the background remains faded.

I can honestly say I’m happy with this drawing, apart from the bit that’s hidden by the pen, but what you don’t know won’t hurt you!

Over and out!

JB

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The Wolverine!

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I haven’t been on here in ages (I know, shame on me!), but here is a drawing I did of Hugh Jackman as Wolverine! Overall I’m happy with how it turned out. I reverted back to using my Faber-Castell pens for the shading, just to give it a bit more impact, but I also used my good old ball point pen.
I think the drawing could do with a background as the outline in some parts are quite thick.

Anyhow a quick post!

Over and out

JB
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As free as a bird

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When you have little Blue Tits flying in and out of the bird box right outside your window (all those caterpillars they’ve fed to their chicks!), it made sense that I should try and draw one (emphasis on the ‘try’ here!).

Unlike most drawing I didn’t start with the birds eye (I know, what’s wrong with me?!) but instead started with it’s beak, it just seemed to make more sense while I was drawing. I thenย drew theย eye before drawing the outline of the bird.

I then went about shading, something I’m not too happy about. Especially the left hand side of the bird or right hand side as you look at it (all these hands are so confusing!), it just seems to deform the bird somehow.

But I think overall it’s an ‘okay’ drawing.

I don’t know if you’ve tried taking a photo of a Blue Tit going in and out ofย it’s house to feed it’s chicks, but I can assureย you, it’s not easy! They’reย speedy little things! ย My rather poor attempt is shown below.

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That’s all for today folks,

Over and out,

JB

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It’s Margaery Tyrell!

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I hadn’t drawn in over a week (I know over a week!) and as my creativity was running wild I decided to do a quick sketch of Natalie Dormer known for playing Margaery Tyrell in the Game of Throne.
I had a few problems with her nose (it just doesn’t look right…my drawing of it that is, Natalie’s nose is lovely) and I probably should have shaded with my pencils instead of leaving it blank, but I do like the way her eyes turned out (I know, what a big head!).

Anyhow only a quick post today!

Over and out

JB
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Oh look it’s Demelza!

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Well season one of Poldark has come and gone and what a cliff-hanger of an ending! As I’m such an impatient person and couldn’t wait to find out what happened and I downloaded the book (wait was this their marketing ploy all along to make you buy the books? Crafty!!).

So because I loved the show I decided to do a drawing of Eleanor Tomlinson who played Demelza Poldark.

It took many tries before I was happy with her eyes, but even now I’m not100% happy with her right eye. I also had trouble with drawing her hair (I think I was just having a bad drawing day) and decided to crop the mess that it became to save your eyes.

All in all it’s a satisfactory drawing, although I think I could defiantly do better!

Over and out!

JB
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Katherine Jenkins

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When a fellow tweeter asked for me to draw Katherine Jenkins I could not say no. Not only does she have a beautiful voice (no I’m not a fan of opera but I can appreciate a good voice when I hear one), to match her handsome looks (not at all jealous…) but most of all she’s Welsh! (I mean how could she not be with such a magnificent voice, we all know the welsh have fabulous voices…apart from me…)

Anyhow the first problem with drawing Katherine was the fact that my ball point pen had snapped in two (I know I’m just too strong for my own good…okay I rolled over it with my wheelie desk chair, silly me!). Once I’d managed to find a pen I could get cracking!
So I started with her eyes, first her left and then her right. I think I’ve over shaded on the left as her lashes aren’t as defined as I’d hoped. I then started on the nose (which I’m actually quite happy with), and then her lips which I’m really not happy with, they just don’t look right to me.
Next was the hair (blond again so less time shading!) and then the rest of the shading. I think there’s too much shading on the face and I don’t think I’ve got the shape of her face quite right either.

Apart from the parts that I’m not entirely satisfied with, I think the drawing was an overall success!

Over and out
JB
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